Dawn

“One may not reach the Dawn save by the path of the night”

“If my ship sails from sight, it doesn’t mean my journey ends, it simply means the river bends.”

Written By: Dawn - May• 19•10

I am going to tell a story which will talk about the platonic relationship and how platonic relationship gets personal and cross the boundaries.

Kevin and Rachel were married and living happily in their own lives. They both met each other in the Subway – the underground train that they used to take to go to downtown to their offices.

They met initially through couple of eye contacts and then they figured out they are the daily and usual passengers of that train. Slowly, familiarity brought confidence and hence both of them used to exchange gestures of Hello, and Bye.

Slowly, they started interacting and knowing each other. Kevin found Rachel as a bubbly and cheerful person. He used to enjoy her company and it used to take him away from all miseries and tensions. He started laughing with her…enjoying the life’s moment by joking, singing and playing pranks.

“On a long journey of human life, faith is the best of companions; it is the best refreshment on the journey; and it is the greatest property.”

Kevin started building a kind of trust in this new friend and started liking her too. He started sharing personal things with Rachel. Rachel, initially felt, ‘ why is he telling all this to me?’. But quickly she felt it’s a good sign since he trusts her.

Rachel used to listen to his talks and she used to share her experiences of life and all this used to help Kevin to look for a new direction.

They slowly became very good friends and from very good friends they started loving each other. They both started feeling that they know and understand each other so much that life would have been a song if they were married.

They both used to analyze why this is happening when we are happy in our marriages? They often try to break off from their friendship thinking this is some kind of momentary feeling and we shouldn’t slip to this.

But then the next day they will be back as they both miss each other’s company, talk, singing and playing.

Rachel was a girl who lives in that moment and believes that who knows what’s stored for us tomorrow so why not live this moment.

“We may run, walk, stumble, drive, or fly, but let us never lost sight of the reason for the journey, or miss a chance to see a rainbow on the way.”

Kevin and Rachel who had a platonic relationship where they used to share their thoughts, issues, fun moments there they started sharing their emotional feelings that they have for each other. Rachel wanted to restrict this as there is no future to such a relationship. However, Kevin who seems like after long time was living his real life and didn’t want to loose this freedom which he used to have before his marriage.

There was an end to this platonic relationship and this became a good love affair. They both cared for each other and would make sure they don’t cause pain to each other as well for what so ever reason.

“All of life is a journey which paths we take, what we look back on, and what we look forward to is up to us. We determine our destination, what kind of road we will take to get there, and how happy we are when we get there.”

Now, this relationship will be called as extra-marital affair, cheating and what not.

I want my readers to write what they think about this?

A platonic relationship which turned out to be personal and sexual?

An extra-marital affair!?

Or

Two understanding people when came together realized they are the best couple on the earth who knows what other is thinking before the person even tells.

Human is a complicated being that god created and life is another complicated journey which can take one to any road and dead end.

The more intelligent we are the more we challenge ourselves.

“Life is not a journey to the grave with intentions of arriving safely in a pretty well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out and loudly proclaiming … WOW! What a ride!”

In all this, Kevin was caught once by his wife. He had to make a choice between his wife and Rachel.

His heart wanted Rachel but he couldn’t speak his heart because he wanted his kids too. He thought sacrifice is the other phase of love and he moved away from Rachel.

Rachel, who always thought the best for Kevin also agreed on sacrificing their love and move back to their lives.

The stream which was flowing together got separated. The stream doesn’t look good anymore yet the flow is on.

Kevin and Rachel – what ever happened in their life – the marriage, kids and then the meeting of their soul mate and of all they agreeing to sacrifice on the soul mate and going with their bizarre life…couldn’t even discuss with anyone as what was it all about? What was different? And why did they felt that they are the soul mates or may be from previous lives they have been separated life after life….and still hoping to meet in the next life…if at all it exists …if one believes…!

“Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew. They’re what make the instrument stretch-what make you go beyond the norm.”

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  • sobi

    was an interesting topic to talk about…. shall come back and comment later hopefully :)

  • http://www.vinodnarayan.com Vinod Narayan

    To be Platonic a relationship needs to reach a level of spirituality where two people from opposite sex relate in what can be called an idealistic form of relation. Here I still see an element of sensuality in between them as they think that this will be a song if they had been married. I missed to see the spirituality element here

    Platonic should be beyond marriage or worldly relationships including family, kids or partner.

    So one should follow the heart but also be strong to face the world as the world also follows its heart.

    And again as they say, the head will never understand the ways of the heart.

  • Ashok Mann

    Its a real good story.

    One should have a friend with whom he can share/discuss/confess anything and everything and should enjoy that moment but certainly not the cost of the family and kids.

  • Ashok Mann

    Its a real good story.

    One should have a friend with whom he can share/discuss/confess anything and everything and should enjoy that moment but certainly not at the cost of the family and kids.

  • http://srisureshca.blogspot.com Suresh Kumar

    Hmm… Its beautifully written.. But I don’t believe such a platonic relationship between a young man and woman. This is platonic relationship is bound to be spoiled by passion or sumthing like that. Maybe … I say maybe there may be a chance if a person has been able to gain control over his desires… And such men come once in a eon :)

    I wud definitely love to see such a relationship in real life somewhere.. I will keep my eyes open…

    I liked the flow of the story…

  • http://www.stargazer-lalitha.blogspot.com starry

    This friendship should not be at the cost of wife and kids, if he was really unhappy in his marrieage then he should be truthful and start a relationship only after settling the first one.Cannot have two at the same time,someone is bound to get hurt.

  • http://longe-vity.blogspot.com krystyna

    Very nicely, thought provocative written story, Dawn!
    Life sometimes puts before us – the choice. I think that their decision was correct. Marriage requires care and maintenance, rather than engaging in a new feeling. It is very easy to destroy a good marriage, if “we play with the feelings.”

    Take care and be happy!

  • Shruti

    Intense and Pure :-)

    The Question is why did the friendship get to the level where they could share all aspects of life and understand each other so well…why did that connection go missing with their spouses ?. Something did go amiss with their spouses..should their spouses not have caught this to begin with ?. There is no need to point a finger as to whose fault it was but the topic should be located at from all angles.

    I do not think they had planned their relationship to get to the level that it got too but if with each passing day, if the nature of their relationship changed…what is the harm ?. Does the intensity of relationship not change in other relations…then why is this different ?…just because they are married ?…oh wait a sec…marriage is all about compromises and sacrifices..isnt it ? :-)

    Once they did realize that their relationship will not be acceptable in this society and were willing to sacrifice their love to save their marriage (family & all) and be accepted in this society……is a good enough sign for me of the purity of their relationship (they were not two virgins falling in love…so, I do not see lust or sensuality being the reason for it)

    In my mind, if a human can be pure in thought…that is a good enough sign of their spirituality…I do not see a need for human’s to become god :-)

    Keep writing…love it.

  • Verona

    This is a very interesting story Thanks for sharing
    I totally believe in soulmate connections
    it’s out of this world no one seems to understand
    words cannot describe

    it’s a blessing to have this connection once in a lifetime
    not everyone can experience this

    I think soulmate relationship won’t be easy either but I’m sure the characters in your story made the best decisions they could

    as for me
    my soulmate and I -our worlds in the extreme difference
    I leave it to fate Because if there’s even a 0.000000000001% chance to be with him
    I would
    but only if he feels the same way

  • Niharika

    Good Article :-)

    I feel for every boy and girl relation that starts with friendship, there will be a thin line which refrains the inner desires from expressing. Desires/feelings are not wrong, first time they arouse naturally, but allowing them grow, nurturing them is wrong. That is where morality matters. Human mind clings onto something which it finds good – may be right or wrong – but it enjoys being in that state.

    In simple words, if both the characters were authentic, to themselves, to their families etc – there would be no room for slippery steps. Authenticity does not mean morality, being authentic is just being authentic in everything!

    Life is made of relations, how you relate yourself to your parents, spouse, kids, friends, strangers, books, music etc. Your relating way defines you.

    Thanks,
    N

  • http://fizadawn.com Dawn

    @ Sobi: I am still waiting ;-)

    @ Vinod Narayan: True platonic relationships are those which reach to spiritual level. One needs to reach there but then human often tend to cross that…! And about going beyond worldly relationships – true when one finds such connections outside of their marriage they do think to go that way and probably that’s what Rachel and Kevin wanted and felt for…but then in their heart as they have love for each other similar way they have for their kids too and that’s the reason the sacrifice part comes in … probably a time may come where they might go beyond all this and just walk out of it…! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    @ Ashok Mann: I tend to disagree there for a reason that…it seems you can do all this but at this cost and not that…and all this…again you are tying people and not letting them to do freely what they want to do…! Here we are not talking about what is good or bad…its about how one feels …so why one feels that way? There has to be reasons to come up to this level…I believe! Thanks for sharing your comments.

    @ Suresh Kumar: Thanks Suresh, and I agree it is tough to see such relationships but you never know they do exist and may go beyond what is in the story … :) you’re right keep those eyes open …you never know :) ! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    @ Starry: I agree not at the cost of but then are they living the life that they wanted? Are they happy where they are living? Aren’t we as society putting rules around them like a fence as what to do and what not to do? Why marriage is like a boundary or noose that you cannot live after that …? I think my story goes beyond all this worldly matters…marriage etc. Thanks for sharing your thoughts dear!

    @krystyna: Dear…I agree what you said. A good marriage :) indeed but then was that a good marriage at first place if so then why they had to go out to find their connections? Things happen and even we as people don’t know that it is happening…but only when we realize we bring all these regulations of marriage into the life and live the life of the rules that is laid out :) Thanks for sharing your thoughts dear…indeed it is a good topic for debate ;)

    @ Shruti: Welcome to my blog. I am surprised but I think you have got my story…as you have called out the other people’s comment well and laid the story of reality. Marriage is not a chain that should tie anyone if it’s not with will of their own. I appreciate your sincere thoughts that you shared here.. thanks!

    @ Verona: Welcome to my blog. I think you are really brave even to go beyond what is said in my story. Actually, even I wanted to end the story in the similar way…but then I wanted to bring the real element of our society which doesn’t allow two people to live happily if they are willing to. Please do come again – thanks for posting your comments here.

    @ Niharika: Welcome to my blog. First of all thanks for posting your thoughts here, I really appreciate that. I think the question one should ask is if they were married and all was going fine then why would anyone look for anything outside? If they did then there is definitely something missing…!
    I am still to understand the definition of your ‘authentic in everything’ – would love to read more.
    Morals in life are for both – Kevin’s wife and Rachel’s husband too…shouldn’t they be there for their spouses…when its needed? If Kevin and Rachel have found their connection with each other there has to be that missing element which they found and hence where they reached in their relationship. I am pretty sure anyone who has a family and kids – for them to go this far there has to be a definite moral issue…a relationship which was probably taken for granted by their spouses…sad but these days I don’t think people have time to live a dead life and waste all the energy. You will see your parents and my parents they all whether happy or sad have sacrificed with all situations to bide the law of this society. They will sacrifice their happiness for kids…and so on. You might have also heard kids dis-owning their parents for whatever reason…all this is moral issues, authentic cases…I think we have to think beyond this man made rules and regulations…
    Thanks everyone for your comments – I really feel the story is thought provoking…I appreciated each one of you have added your thoughts and sincere feelings – THANK YOU :)
    Cheers